If you had to suddenly evacuate your home due to an unforeseen emergency and were only able to carry one suitcase, what would you take? For most of us, this is an extremely difficult and uncomfortable question to take seriously. Let’s face it, we all have too many things that we cherish- certainly too many things to fit into one little suitcase. Like most American consumers today, we have a tremendous fascination with our acquired possessions- otherwise known as “STUFF”. We are conditioned to believe that stuff identifies who we are; stuff represents our status in society and reflects upon our personal ambitions. Our stuff are the rewards of our hard work and we protect them as we do our loved ones. Especially in a country that has no shortage of access to acquiring ANY manufactured goods and “collectibles”- logic takes a back seat to the joys of ownership. From over-the counter shopping to catalog shopping to internet orders and auctions, the pleasures of ‘getting’ has been made so easy and knows no bounds.
Our attachment and association to our belongings connect us with many deep rooted habits from childhood and are empowered by the many marketing lures in our consumerist society. Commercials that compel you to “collect them all” or “buy now while supplies last” brainwash us all to act on impulse with little or no concern for the CONSEQUENCE.
Purchases range in value from the most necessary life-sustaining essentials like food, clothing and shelter-- to the more personally-driven effects that express our very uniqueness. In moderation, all people need material things to fill their lives. Personal effects play a vital role in bringing emotional security to one’s individuality where exercising the freedom of choice and fulfilling the ability to own what you like is a huge part of the American dream. But as a society that embraces a belief that “you are what you own”- many fall into the assumption that ‘the more you own… the better off you ARE’.
Personal items like fashion wear, art and recreational “toys” (to name a few) have a recurring tendency to need upgrades or accessorizing. They also invite compulsive collecting. Just think of your cassette and record collection-- which is now your CD collection. This came about at the cost of re-buying them to join the technology evolution. Meanwhile, an influx of obsolete things (or a lack of accountability of them) becomes the new disposal or storage issue.
THE LIFE OF "STUFF" vs THE HUMAN CONDITION- Depending on the item and the owner, the applied value of the average purchase from stores, garage sales or online auctions carry their own life cycle. The harsh realities of ‘stuff’ acquisition is driven by the owner's emotions starting from an enthusiastic “gotta have it” with little consideration to consequences. At the end of its life cycle, all unwanted things may end up as a space-eater in your closet, attic or garage largely due to one's propensity to constantly outgrow things to represent new values. After the thrill and the urgency for that item has completely faded, it makes its way to a less visible storage area in your home- next to all your other effects that you resist parting with. And once this happens, “out of sight / out of mind” brings years to pass and your once “must have” item has now become a dilemma for disposal. This is what is known in the collectors' world as POSSESSION PURGATORY.
Let it be material things, activities, foods, homes or friends- it is our human value system that is to blame for our constant need to replace and replenish. Consumer experts and product manufacturers count on this to continue generating merchandise for public consumption - that which is now the main concern for environmental protection agencies worldwide.
Am I telling you to stop buying things? Of course not. But if you find yourself having a hard time getting rid of surplus possessions or old ‘stuff’ that you no longer need regularly, perhaps this might be the time to regain control of your space, your buying habits and your life. Perhaps now is the time to rethink how you can dispose of stuff freely in a way that others can benefit. This is the beginning of SUSTAINABLE living.
If you are ready- set yourself FREE.
1) Know your space and take account of what you currently own
2) When reviewing your ‘inventory’, try and assess if there’s anything you’ve stored that can be used now.
3) Keep up with a seasonal cleaning schedule of your storage areas
4) When doing a seasonal cleaning, subscribe to your neighborhood recycling and separate your papers from your plastics.
5) Get familiar with the many charities that will accept your unwanted used stuff
6) Reduce waste as much as you can by being mindful of what is trash and what can be given away, donated or sold. Your old belongings may be of use to someone else.
7) When shopping, be mindful of the item’s size and how long it will be of value to you.
8) For the ‘collector’- commit to learning how to LET GO. It heals the soul and helps your home.
9) If you feel your things are not yet trash-bound, know about websites like TAKEMEIMFREE.com where you can post your unwanted stuff so others can benefit from it.


John D. says:
One man's treasures are another man's junk. My life partner and I are opposites in many ways. If it were up to me, I would rent a dumpster, go through the house and dispose of all the unnecessaries. After going through somewhat of a "spiritual awakening," I've come to realize how insignificant most of the things we accumulate in life really are. My wife, on the other hand, likes to hold on to things "just in case." She puts things in a pile for the "future" garage sale. Having had garage sales in the past, compared to all the work that needs to be done prior to and after such a sale, the truth is, the money is not worth it! Besides, having a parade of strangers traipsing all over your front lawn and touching everything on your property is most annoying.
TAKEMEIMFREE.com is a great idea because instaed of adding more garbage to the landfills, someone may truly benefit from another's junk.
We come into this world with nothing and we go out the same...if what we posess is no longer useful to us, pass it on. Before your next purchase, ask yourself, "Is this really necessary?" When you think about it, less is more!
Slick D. says:
Slick50:
Excellent idea! If I would have known about this in 2007 when I had to empty out most of my "stuff" because of a break up, I would have made alot of people in need happy with the belongings that I felt I no longer needed to hold on to due to bad memories. Instead of going through the hassle of having strangers come to my home and trying to sell everything, I trashed most of my memories. I now realize what a mistake that was.
TAKEMEIMFREE.com is one of the most ingenious ideas to come around in a long time.
I did plan on keeping the basics, however if I ever get into that rut of gathering "stuff" again Chris will be the first one I get in touch with. I set myself free once, I can certainly do it again!
Chris, YOU ROCK!
Dan N. says:
Great article, couldn't agree more. It's very easy to become overtaken by your possessions if you are not aware of your own hoarding or collecting "addictions"
Daisy G. says:
It is a great article. I have been going to a transition of getting rid of my things that I haven’t used in years. My motivation came when I moved from my parent’s house to my place. I lived there for 19 years and I filled up this house. Now my parent’s house is pretty much empty. I learned that if you don’t have use of stuff give it away to others that will. Also, I don’t go to the stores unless I really need something. I can admit I can’t do window shopping without buying something so I stay away.
Daniel B. says:
Due to my apartment size and my habits of acquisition, I've been applying the one year rule and tossing out all my unessentials. Books, electronics, furniture, etc. All perfectly usable "stuff". It always bothers me. I just don't have the time and resources to find recipients. TakeMeImFree looks like it might be something I need. Thanks.
Melanie S. says:
These "habits" stem from the Depression era generation who learned to keep everything because you might need it someday and then the post war generation who experienced the end of rationing and the post war economic boom. We just keep passing it down to the next generation. But enough is enough! Websites like TakemeImfree.com have found a great way to operate a business and make an impact on society and the environment! Way to go!!
Janice B. says:
After 13 years of living in my last apartment, it was time to move into a bigger place. It was then that I realized GEORGE CARLIN'S bit about "stuff" is so much more than a joke. It's an embarrassment! Moving into another space just to house your crap- and buy even more crap when you have the room for it. Melaney's comment is right on (above) as far as HABITS. Rent is really STORAGE CHARGE for our stuff... and that's not the right way to live.
After I took a parting glance at the contents of my dumpster outside apt #1, I felt so good to lighten up my load and not bring all those things into my new life. But I came down with a deep feeling of disgust for storing all that stuff - and even worse for contributing several tons to land pollution. So Chris, super solution to find new takers. Wish I found your site sooner!
Beth C. says:
Everytime I moved over the past 20 years, I have more stuff. Very few things that I can see my grandchilden bringing on the antique roadshow in the distant future. Very few things are made to last a few generations. To get anything really well made is very expensive and society seems to be coming back to that.
Barbara D. says:
I like the old rule of "if you don't touch it for 6 months, you don't need it" Donating "stuff" that you no longer need to charities is an excellent idea. The new show on A & E called "Hoarders" will cure you of keeping things too long....
Shelley C. says:
I wish I couldn't relate to this article, but in many cases, it fits me to a tee. Luckily, a modest remodel forced me to go through items large and small.
A lot of "stuff" was recently donated during a local pick-up for goods. But I would encourage anyone with larger items that might normally be demolished to take some time to locate salvage companies in your area. I found a salvage firm that wanted my old vanities, faucets, sinks and commodes. Contractors would have charged me for the effort, while the salvage operator was pleased to remove it and transport the items at no charge. The salvage company does a lot of "repurposing" and the contractors would have just taken everything to the dump.